I think I’ve mentioned in this blog before about my self-hatred towards my body. For as long as I can remember I’ve been at war with my body absolutely hating it and being extremely vicious towards myself. For years I didn’t wear bikinis because I felt I looked horrible in them. In fact, I’d be lying if I said comments from the people closest to me didn’t hurt when they ask me about my diet and what I’m doing to lose weight -in fact I think these were the things that started this whole conundrum-. The fact is, I have terrible self-esteem issues and I have hated the way I look from times immemorial. But the thing is, it’s exhausting to hate yourself, it wears you out because nothing you do will ever be enough. I know I could lose 40 pounds and I’d still think of myself as fat. Because changing myself won’t do much for the pain I’ve been through because of my body and the way it looks.
Self-love is a radically different approach to my problem that I’ve been trying out for a while. It basically means I’m gonna stop making excuses as to why I don’t like myself or the way I look because I’m stuck with me. I decided that the first step of radical self-love was to stop listening to the haters. So what if I’m not a size 0? So what if I’m not incredibly skinny or have the perfect body? Should I be punishing myself because I don’t live up to their expectations? The answer is no. You should never change yourself for other people and I in fact started working out for real when I left Colombia and some of the haters behind. Because this time I’m working out for me and not for them. Haters are always gonna have a way to make you feel like your efforts aren’t enough, so just forget them. This isn’t about them.
The second and harder approach is to stop being so vicious to yourself. Tuning out the haters is really easy actually, you just stop caring about them and if you didn’t particularly like them to begin with, then it’s a walk in the park. Ignoring yourself is an entirely different game. It’s time to stop calling ourselves ‘fat’, ‘gross’ and any other equivalent. Beauty is in diversity. Today I decided to ignore the nagging voice in my head telling me not to post this picture and go ahead and love myself in my bikini body because it’s the one I’ve got and at the end of the day, I’m grateful for it. I hope you guys find a way to radically self-love yourself because as miss Bradshaw so wisely pointed out: “But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”
Let’s make it a point to love ourselves, as hard and challenging and utterly frustrating it is sometimes, nothing is more fulfilling. I know I am incredibly proud of posting this picture and maybe in the long run, that’s gonna be enough.
I’m wearing a Forever 21 bikini and prepare for a gratuitous beach shot.
Bad days, we all have them. They happen and it’s a fact and no matter what there will be crappy days where we just don’t want to deal with anything. Those days when your coffee spills on you and you lose your keys and everything is a jumble and you wish you’d stayed in bed all day. I’ve been wondering about cures for these crappy days because I usually just sit down and cry and wonder why everything sucks sometimes -which doesn’t really help anyone-. I think bad days are unavoidable but what you make of them can really turn them around. You can’t change the coffee spilling but you can laugh about it and not let it dictate your mood.
Net-a-porter helped me out with the perfect solution, find the small things that make you happy. In bad day, there is always lipstick and Chanel and bands and music and movies and all these things can turn your day around. I know nothing makes me happier than taking my fabulous red lipstick and feeling fierce wearing it. Hold on to the little things that make bad days or weeks or months bearable and soon the storm will pass and you’ll be so proud of yourself for weathering the storm. Hold on to the little things and you’ll how much fun you’ll have while it rains around you!
This week I sit down to write this op-ed and I’m feeling really upset about something and I really want to vent it out and hear your thoughts on the matter. I’m getting really fed up with the mean girl attitude towards fashion and people thinking that by putting others down they’re immediately more fashionable. I recently stumbled upon a blog who took pictures of people on the streets and labeled them ‘fashion victims’ over their style choices. Not only is this cruel to the extreme but why the need to point out to what someone is wearing them and try to humiliate them? I think a lot of us have been there. I’m not going to pretend to be a saint because I have criticized people over what they wear and as I grow up I realize how disgusting that behavior is.
Honestly, the whole point of individuality is that people should wear what they want and if you don’t like it then that’s cool, you don’t have to wear it. This catty horrible attitude that someone wearing something considered ‘tacky’ or ‘trashy’ must immediately be put in the stocks for daring to wear that, is disgusting. There are many things I wouldn’t dare wear, mostly because I’m not confident in my body to do it or because I don’t like it, but I shouldn’t hate on someone for going there and hey, if you feel really pretty and hot then who cares what I think about it? I think this attitude should stop and we should stop glamorizing the mean people who make it into a profit and publicize it in their blogs. There’s nothing glam about being mean.
I decided to embrace some of the summer feel in this OOTD and try on some shorts. I saw these lace pair and I knew I had to have them. I’d seen them worn by other bloggers before and I thought they looked stunning! I love lace and I think it’s a material that is good for any and all occasions. These particular pair are a great versatile piece I can wear to the office and outside. I actually wore these to the office with a beige shirt with sequins. I was so excited to show you this OOTD because it mixes all the things I love: lace, sequins and oxfords! Also my favorite bag in burgundy. The pop of color for this outfit is with my purple pendant.
As the weather gets hotter, I’ve had to go creative with my office-wear because you want to keep it professional but you don’t want to suffocate. I think a sweet pair of shorts with a long sleeve shirt provides the perfect balance for a good office-wear look. Also, I can get away with this because I work at a more casual place. Be sure your office rules allow you to wear shorts before you try this look out! I’ve always been a firm believe in individuality and that your outfits should reflect the quirky things that make us who we are and that’s why I decided to mix all these things in one outfit! Some people might think it’s too much but I do love sequins and lace together -also gold, gold is my favorite color-. After all, what is life if you don’t get to shine?
I’m wearing Monteau shorts and shirt, Steve Madden oxfords, and Forever 21 pendant and purse.
In the world of fashion it’s hard to play favorites. So many fashion houses, so much creativity, and so much beauty add up to you loving every collection and designer and fashion house for different reasons. Over the years, I have acquired a particular taste for certain fashion houses and designers, simply because they make me excited collection after collection. Chanel and Karl Lagerfeld are always stunning, Tom Ford is my soul-brother, but there is one fashion house that simply outshines everyone a little bit for me, and it is McQueen. First of, Lee Alexander McQueen was a genius and every single piece he created for his fashion house was flawless and on point -I have not found one piece I don’t love-. Lee Alexander McQueen is still today one of my favorite fashion icons. A man who defied fashion and everything it stood for, creating a different aesthetic in a world of fashion that still stands the test of time due to it’s elegance and beauty. He cmanaged to captivate us all, season after season, and his death shook me -and the fashion world- to the core because he was a talented, visionary, hard-working man, whose creativity still lives on today.
Even after his death, the fashion house has managed to stay true to his creative vision and continue the dark, haunted aesthetic that makes this fashion house something else in the world of fashion. Today I’d like to honor that aesthetic and vision because my favorite F/W ad campaign is none other than Alexander McQueen’s. This dark, twisted fantasy like ad campaign is so beautifully stirring and embodies a lot of the things that have made the brand stand out year after year. The ad features a dark color palette, heavy embroidery and print, and even a very royally clad horse. The dresses are absolutely breathtaking and it makes me thing of a dark, twisted kingdom with really cool looking, fierce queens. I bring you the stunning photography because this ad campaign proves that Alexander McQueen is here to stay and reign for decades to come. Long live McQueen!
I am so excited about this OOTD post because this is my new favorite black dress and it is everything! Midi skirts are really becoming my thing because it’s so elegant and polished but this one is particularly lovely because it has lace panels in the back which help contrast the long skirt. I think an awesome thing to do in the summer is wear black dresses because they look a little out of place and I love that they make you stand out. This is technically a fall dress but what is fashion if you can’t break a few rules along the way? Going back to the midi skirt, they’re very on trend and I think they just make looks feel more polished and elegant, there’s a ‘Breakfast at Tiffany’s’ feel about this cut of the dress that just makes you feel like Holly Golightly.
I paired off this look with some strappy high heels to add some summer into it and I added my pendant to give it a little color. Overall I think it’s a great outfit for work days or even going out in the weekend. You’re guaranteed to look stylish and a little mysterious like miss Golightly. I do love channeling Audrey in my look as I feel she is my soul sister and inspiration (we share a birthday). So dar LA has been a whirlwind so I think I’m holding on to black because it’s the color most people wear in Bogota, so it’s a little piece of home away from home for me. After all, you can take the girl out of Colombia but you can’t take Colombia out of the girl.
I’m wearing BCBG high heels, Forever 21 dress and pendant,
My best dressed star this week is on my top because 1. she makes menswear hot -I need to own this- and 2. Because I can actually own this since it’s head-to-toe H&M. Ashley Benson killed it for me in this H&M outfit. Since she is the new face of the divided collection I was expecting her to bring it but she freaking killed it. The lace details contrasts and balances out the menswear inspiration but it still looks like one of those ‘borrowed from the boys’ looks I just love. I think lace is a great material, it’s sexy but it can also be romantic and flirty. The shoes are on point -literally as they are pointed pumps- and add a sexy quality to the look and the purse is just perfection. There isn’t one wrong thing with this outfit and the face I can have it in my own closet is just the cherry on top of a perfect look.
As for my second best dressed of the week, she also wore something we can all own because she went to the H&M launch in NYC as well. Olivia Wilde kills it in another menswear inspired look. This one is less sexbomb and more laid-back cool though because of the loose fitting trousers and the slouchier blouse. The top still brings the sex appeal with the sheer detail and the lacing in the edge. I love how the star paired it with a bralette because it ends up looking very cool and effortless. I love menswear inspired attire and this one nails it and the best part? it’s all affordable and in a store near you!